I have always told my over-worked husband that the greatest gift you can give your kids in your time. I can completely understand his desire to relax, watch TV or work in the yard when he isn’t working but I always tell him that he has to make time to just be with the girls. He agrees but often times there is very little follow through on his part. This past week, I really don’t know what got him to this point, but he has finally starting drinking the Kool-aid.
He came home a few days ago and told me that he was going to cut his hours and add another evening off during the week to just be here with us. While I am thrilled with his change of heart, that means I have another night where I have to be good! LOL
In all honesty, I really am over the moon with his realization. I have a close friend from high school who learned this lesson too late and his two oldest children tolerate his presence at best. Yet, he does get kudos for making more of an effort with their youngest and being more involved in her life. Unfortunately, I don’t think he will ever be able to fix the damage with the older two but, he does deserve applause for what he is attempting to do with his youngest.
Thankfully The Hub is making this move before the girls are too old and turn their backs on him. He still needs guidance but he is realizing that he needs to connect more with his kids. It can be something as simple as having a TV show that they are both into or taking them out on a date to get ice cream. Maybe take one of them to the store with you or something as simple as that. All they want is to be included – Your time is all kids really want.
Last night, Bella was having a rough time with some friends so I picked her up and without saying a word, instead of heading home, we went to a family restaurant and had an appetizer and just talked. I didn’t say much, I just listened to her and let her talk it out. I could see in her eyes that this was all she really wanted and needed, just some time with me, away from the house, the phone, the rest of the family to just talk. It was actually quite entertaining to watch her talk her way through the situation, rationalize it and come to a conclusion about how to handle herself. As I mentioned, I said next to nothing but at the end, she said, “Thank you, Momma for talking through this with me. I feel much better.”
All I did was eat onion rings … but I gave her what she needed my time.